Husbands and such...

Have I ever mentioned that I love my husband? Cuz I do. I think he is a wonderful man. In fact, he is wonderful in many ways, but he has one very big, monumental, hard to look past flaw...he is a man. Thats tough. It can be hard to get past sometimes. Here's why.

"Honey, did you call the dr about the procedure we talked about you doing BEFORE we got married?" --I bet you know his answer.
and
"The car is making that wierd noise, have you even called the mechanic to set up a time like I asked weeks and weeks ago?" His response was "You asked me last week"

We both are wrong, it was not weeks and weeks ago, nor was it last week. My question is, what is the appropriate grace period for something like this? How long should I wait before I mention it again? I know I am capable of making an appt with the mechanic. But in my attempt to give up some control--and maintain some sanity --I have decided to just STOP. I am not going to follow the boys around and pick up after them-- When I ask them to clean their rooms, what message am I sending if I just go in and do it myself when they don't do it to my liking? This does not apply to all things mind you. No, you may not go to school w/o brushing your teeth EXACTLY the way I showed you. No, you are not going to church wearing that. No my love, I do not want to eat cereal for our date night...again. Some things just need time.

Now again, I adore him. He is kind, oh so handsome, and he is generous. I am blessed to be his wife. I also absolutely float on air over the fact that I have Benjamin and Christian in my life. But they will one day be men too. And again, that's hard to get past.

Sometimes I feel as though they walk all over me,


and push my buttons,


but they can be oh so sweet,


my heart skips a beat,


and dances with love when I think about spending my life with them.


I love you too Christian


And Benjamin, I love you too

So when things get difficult, I turn daily to one of my favorite prayers, and because of this simple prayer, I am beginning to laugh at the unlaughable. Thanks be to God;

God, grant me the Serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
the Courage to change the things I can,
and the Wisdom to know the difference.

Over a year

I have had this blog for just over a year! I love having a place to go to not only reflect on my week (or month lately) and keep our friends and family updated on our lives at the same time. Apparently I have not been blogging often enough though because I have had a few people mention that it has been too long since my last post...so my apologies to those who read this...and my thanks to you too!! I've lost some of my Mojo with the blog though, and I hope that I can regain it. I would like to take it in another direction, with some updates still, but maybe some more of my thoughts about the goings on in the world. But for today I will just give a quick update.
Today Benjamin celebrated his First Communion! It was quite interesting to see all of the 5th graders take the wine...and mention the "bite" it had at the end! It was a big exciting step for Benjamin and I am proud of him for putting in the effort leading up to today.

We spent some time with Jesse, Tahnee, and the girls this weekend. It feels really good to be seeing them regularily again, its just too bad that it takes me having to make an appointment to make it happen. But I guess that is the way it goes when the kids are as busy as they are!

Last night we went to the Rochester Dance Company's version of Teenage Wasteland. It was a compilation of dancing of different styles, and it was thoroughly entertaining. The boys really liked it too, and it is just the first of several plays we are looking forward to seeing this year.
We joined the Y last week. We have been thinking about doing it for almost a year now. We have asked a zillion questions about membership and classes, and we finally bit the bullet. I am in a study right now that requires me to meet with a trainer 4 days a week for 8 weeks, so when this is done I would like to maintain the fitness routine, and the Y is a great place to do that. The boys have gone swimming several times this past week and I can't wait to join a few of the classes that they offer. Zumba and yoga will be the first on my list!
Yesterday we opened up the windows and let the fresh air come in! It was wonderful, and of course the cats took advantage of the breeze coming in through the window. I love Spring!

Not Me Monday!!

Here we are, its Monday, and I am reflecting on the past week...have I got any Not Me moments to fess up to? OF COURSE!! Now remember Not Me Monday is a way to come clean with all of the things I did, but w/o actually admitting it--because it was Not Me!!

My 3 day study diet started last Sunday...which was also the day of the Scouts Blue and Gold of which I needed to make cupcakes for. I was NOT ALLOWED to eat ANYthing that was not given to me by the cafeteria/lab lady at the CRU. I did NOT lick my finger once. Not just one tiny little bitty lick...I washed the rest of it away!

I did not spend the entire day Wednesday pouting through the blood draws that they had to perform. I did not nearly cry each time the nurse came in to torture me draw my blood. Not me!

I certainly did not spend the entire day Wednesday fantasizing of getting out of the hospital and eating Big Macs and french fries-- only to order a salad from the hospital cafeteria/lab lady--and go home to bed. And since I did not go home to bed (after laying in a hospital bed for 2 days), I did not miss Ash Wednesday with my family!

I did not lose to my 11 year old son bowling yesterday--TWICE!

During the fundraiser for Lincoln yesterday morning, I was behind the bar pouring drinks for the breakfast at Applebees. I did not have flashbacks of bar tending and I absolutely DID NOT miss bar tending and did not have the slightest desire to go back to it again!

Ahhh, now that all of that is off my chest...its your turn! Try a Not Me Monday and see how it feels to get those embarrassing, not so proud moments out in the open! It feels good!!